Set clear, strong, loving boundary in your relationships

ART BY SKINNER

Have you heard about boundaries and consent but feel overwhelmed or confused trying to navigate those things in your own life?

What I am seeing is people trying to navigate different commands coming from different background, history and belief system and getting super confused at the end.

To help you assess whether you might benefit from doing some boundary work with me, here is a list of things you experience if you have solid, healthy boundaries:

  • you say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no,

  • it is easy for you to think about who could help you and ask for their help when in need,

  • your wellbeing and capacity to feel strong, confident and capable is not undermine by other people reactions.

Boundary work

Signs you might not have clear boundaries:

  • habit of overextending yourself,

  • people pleasing,

  • avoiding conflict at all cost,

  • somehow always getting in conflict with people,

  • doing things for others even if they dont ask for it and/or you don’t have the time/energy/desire to do so. It is automatic and sometimes you regret offering help afterwards.

  • never asking for help and/or feeling shame when receiving help

  • in general, feeling drained after spending time with others

  • alone, you are reminiscing of past interactions, criticizing what you said and did (or didn’t say)

  • oscillating between closing off and exposing all of you to others, not knowing where the right middle might be.