Couple Therapy

Moving towards awesome, together

Whether you need better communication, more love or to reignite the passion in your couple, I can help! Nowadays, intimate relationships have a much bigger roles in our lives yet we do not have great models of what a thriving relationship might look like.

Romantic comedies aren’t it, star couples seems to have it all until we learn about their break up and unfortunately, most of us have not had the privilege to grow up in fully loving, fully connected, thriving family either. It makes sense most of us settle for not much, looking around and thinking to ourselves at least we are not that mess over there.

While individual therapy is now totally socially acceptable, couple therapy still suffers from some stigma. After all, if you need help, doesn’t that mean that you should'n’t be in this relationship in the first place? Most of us are only getting ready to ask for help long after we know we need it.

Here is my take on this: We have very poor example of what a healthy relationship looks like, how to navigate conflicts in ways that will make everyone involved feeling safer and more connected, how to speak about our desire and needs without hurting our partner or not being shut down. If you feel that too, why on earth wouldn’t you ask for support and work towards building thriving relationship with your partner?

At the end of the day, if there is love in your home, I will help you sort it out. It might very well require for your partner to change, it will probably means you will have to change too. Here is the secret I am operating with: the meat of intimate relationships actually starts after the happy ending, the “and they lived happily ever after” moment. It might not be pretty and ask us a lot more of ourselves than we think we are capable of but, if you take a moment and think about it… isn’t that exciting? Isn’t having to change into a better version of yourself in the name of the love you have for one another and the commitment you keep making to your family the most beautiful thing?

The name of the game?

Accessing your soft power and discovering the thrills of fierce intimacy.

I have no magic wands to bring you back to the highs of your honey moon phase and no amount of homework will do. However, I can support you coming back in relationship to one another, this time as you truly are. This is a bumpy ride and I promise you some thrills. If you are looking for a couple therapist, you have already done a big part of the job! You stopped seeing your partner through those distorting love goggles us humans seem to be so attached to AND you know you need help and are ready to receive it.

And if there is no more love, I can help you facing together the dread, pain and heartaches of transitioning out of your partnership. My philosophy is that whatever it takes to move out of the muck that is driving you all crazy, is a gift for everyone involved.

I am working with couples of all genders, sexual preferences, as well as consensually non-monogamous arrangements. You will not be judged here for the way you decide to explore life together.