Men’s Work

Having trouble navigating the world or connecting with other men?

If you have never discussed your sexual life with another man, never cried in another man arms, your best friend is a woman, or if you actually know you are scared of other men; if you are wondering, this is the kind of stuff that makes us toxic, and there is no one else but us who can straight things up—what I’m offering may be for you. Our fathers didn’t leave us with any map, no healthy archetype to rely on. We don’t know how to do it and that is why we need to get together and reclaim our backbone. As a fellow traveler on the path, let me tell you: this here is the most tangible work you can possibly do for yourself.

My relationship to men’s work

I must admit, the first time I heard about men’s group, I wasn’t sold. The second time neither, despite the positive first experience. Third time I was still going with heavy feet.

I mean… what is it anyway? Why would I need to sit with other men? Can’t I be join a mix group? What is the point? It is extraordinary difficult to relate man to man in our culture. We don’t have models for what healthy masculinity might look like. Most men I know have either bully or been bullied in school. Our fathers were either straight up violent, emotionally abusive or absent, leaving us on our own to figure out what it could mean to be a little man. This is not the ideal foundation to become a strong, loving, caring, supportive man standing up for what matters in our lives.

Yet, out of all the experiences I have had, out of all the people I met, showing up again and again to men’s group is what change my life the most radically, for the better. There are no words for the thing that can be done and experience when men decides to meet up, stand together and make each other accountable. Offering men’s group (and individual coaching) myself, I feel deep gratitude and reverence towards my elders who supported me to show up, in all my humanness and help me see what belonging truly means.

Topics of discussion will include, but are not limited to:

• sex (and porn addiction)

• our relationship to pleasure and pain

• the image of manhood we carry

• the way we experienced friendship amongst boys throughout our childhood

• the kind of individualist we have become and other fun stuffs!

Side effects of working on connection and bonding experiences with fellow men can include:

• long lasting friendships

• happy partner

• longer life expectancy

• buddies available to help you move that fridge in (or out)

• better jobs

• stronger connection with your sense of beauty and the sacred

• making you more attractive and living a more fulfilling yet much less stressful life